How does it feel when your best friend says that you will do great in the exam even after knowing that you've studied for just 2 hours before the exam? Now that is, confidence!
Keeping jokes apart, we often meet people who attract us with their conviction and confidence. The way they speak, the way they are dressed, their poster, gesture, body language everything is up to the mark. And we are awestruck. This is because they are full of confidence.
We all dream to be like one but often fall short in taking efforts towards building our confidence.
“When you have a lot of confidence and you feel like nobody can beat you, it’s game over for everyone else.”
Confidence is believing in yourself. Believing in your decisions; in your actions. Confidence is knowing that whatever course of action you take is correct and is going to lead you to your goal.
Confidence comes after knowledge and experience. Don't be afraid to try and fail. After failing 10 times, you would have definitely gained enough confidence regarding which decision leads to what consequence, what should be done, and what should be avoided when you try for the 11th time.
Here, in this article, you will find some simple tricks that will help you to boost your confidence.
Dive right in to know!
Do you have self-confidence?
Self-confidence is a superpower. Once you begin to believe in yourself, magic starts happening.
The above quote is enough to express the power of self-confidence. Do you feel confident in the most critical and important situations in your life? Or do you self-doubt yourself?
You may get frustrated when someone finds mistakes in your work and it may lead to a reduction in self-confidence. Do you feel less confident during the exam period or interviews? Do you have the confidence to talk with strangers?
Ask yourself these questions, to assess yourself.
Self-confidence helps you to handle any kind of situation and helps you stay strong and motivated.
When you feel confident you can complete your work with more energy and creativity, which results in the accomplishment of your goal.
You will perform better when you feel confident. Lack of self-confidence causes hesitation in expressing yourself. The idea of failure breaks down self-confidence.
Here are a few simple tips that will help you increase your confidence:
1. Stop comparing yourself with others:
Can you compare your left hand and right hand on the basis of which one is more effective?
Can you compare your fingers with one another? If your answer is no, the reason must be that they're all different.
Then how, can you compare two entirely different personalities?
When you compare yourself with your friends or colleagues on how they have done better than you. It reduces your confidence and may demotivate you. It can also create hatred for that person in your mind.
A 2018 study published on Personality and Individual Differences found a direct link between envy and the way you feel about yourself.
Often, when we compare, we focus on others' strengths and our weaknesses, their achievements, and our failures, which cannot be an accurate examination of your potential. Such comparisons lead to a loss of self-confidence.
2. Overconfidence vs under confidence:
Confidence and overconfidence have a thin line between them, try to understand it.
Confidence is when one person is sure about his course of action or activity and it comes from past success and the right decisions.
Overconfidence is excessive belief in your own abilities ignoring the fact that some of your decisions might be wrong too. Don't be the pompous person, it will eventually reflect on you. Overconfidence can make the winning show fall.
Don’t pressurize yourself so that you become under-confident. When you feel so, try to be calm, study the situation you are in, and prepare yourself to avoid conflict.
"There’s nothing more impressive than a great attitude, which you can wear on your sleeve. But you have to remember the difference between being rude and being confident.” – Virat Kohli
3. Adapt to the Conditions:
Adjust yourself according to the surrounding circumstances. Be adaptable instead of being reluctant.
People can tell whether you are confident or not by judging your body language or reading your face. Here are three things; doing them right will always make you feel confident:
Dressing: A decent dressing style, wearing neat, clean, tidy, and comfortable clothes makes you look attractive and more presentable. Getting your dressing right can increase your confidence to the next level
Attitude: Positive attitude, well-mannered behavior, and patience can boost up your confidence
Personality: Your body language, gestures, the way you walk and speak confidently, being calm, and maintaining good posture throughout, with a smile on your face, can make you appear like a confident person
4. From fear to confidence:
To increase confidence, do the things that you fear the most. For example, try to do the things in front of a mirror-like singing, dancing, acting, and preparing for the exam or presentation therefore you gradually feel fearless to do the things and you increase stage daring.
Whenever you feel self-doubt or have an anxiety attack, close your eyes, take a deep breath and think, that this is your last chance and you have to give it your best shot.
5. Be ready:
Be prompt in grabbing every opportunity that comes your way. None of them is small or big.
Stop doubting yourself about your work, once you give your true potential to it.
Understand what makes you feel less confident and avoid those negative thoughts. Start nurturing positive thoughts, and with time, you will notice that you are getting closer to your goal.
6. Learn from your failures:
“Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.”
Crush the unnecessary thoughts which are pulling you down; what if I am wrong? What if I make a mistake?
It is okay to make mistakes. One makes mistakes only after trying. What is necessary is to learn from your mistakes and never repeat the same ones again.
If you face failure on your way, don't panic, it's not a big deal since they will eventually lead you towards success. Try to move on with the same energy and enthusiasm.
“With confidence, you have won even before you have started.”
Confidence is the only thing that makes a difference. Confidence can move mountains. If you have it, you are already halfway there.
As we saw some of the ways implementing which you can increase your confidence, it is now your turn to turn the tables.
Confidence is all about how you present yourself and can give you an edge in this era of rapidly changing opportunities. Helping yourself boost your confidence can help you perform better to get a job, to clear an exam, or to perform great in an audition. It is all about doing it with confidence.
You must have now got a better idea about how to boost your confidence. What are you waiting for then? Start working right away and you will see, the sky's the limit!
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